There has been some activity down in Kentucky. I haven't really processed it, as of yet, so I'm not sure I can blog about it, but let's just say, Miss Mail Order was asking to go back home last night. I guess maybe a divorced guy with six kids ain't all it's cracked up to be? Anyway, when hell was breaking loose, I was trying to have a relaxing afternoon at the salon. So, in the middle of cut and color, I told the ex to just send my kids home. Miss Mail Order wasn't dealing well at all. I told him she was probably home sick and jet lagged, and the kids were just making it worse. (Who's awesome idea was it to have the whole crew down there the minute she stepped off the boat?) Anyway, my phone died while I was at the salon, so I didn't have to deal with it. That's his problem, for sure. I figured he'd ship the kids back first thing this morning, but other than some residual bitching about how messy they are, and how dramatic our daughter is, I haven't heard anything that would indicate they are heading back early. Apparently he's going to be a dad, and ride out the storm with his kids.
Can I just say..... life is so much better when you decide that people are going to be who they are, and you can't control it. Let the haters be hateful, let the dramatic folks have their drama. Life is so much better when you just tune out. Turn off your phone, keep them off of your facebook, twitter, whatever. Get back to the good ol' days, when you didn't read everyone's every move on social media. It really takes a lot of stress away. Tune out of technology, get outside, run, walk, play, whatever. Enjoy your kids, enjoy your spouse, enjoy your life. Let other people's bullsh*t be their own. My week has been peaceful, due, in large part to making the choice to be present in my own life, not other people's. I have to say that what was going on in KY last night, was mildly entertaining, but at the end of the day, my phone died, and I felt a huge sense of relief. I knew my kids were fine. I can't control what goes on at their dad's. I need this time to recuperate from my everyday life. I do not need added drama. So, choosing to unplug, and get outside has proven to be one of the best decisions I've made all month! Sure, I've checked on the kids, but I talk to them, I hear they're fine, and I'm good to go. I can focus on "me time".
Shanon and I have date night planned the next two nights, and there is no phone, or internet allowed. The kids are fine and with their dad. It's our turn to get to be just us.....boyfriend and girlfriend, fiances, whatever you want to call it.... unplugged, and present with one another....and I can't wait! Selfish? Maybe. Necessary? YES!!!!
So....while I was at the salon yesterday, we did a practice "wedding hair" run. OMG! I was so excited! It's going to be so gorgeous! I can't wait! Whitney is a magician with hair...I love her... I was so taken with her vision. It's just perfect. I can't wait to see it all together! Why can't I have a dress, hair, and make up like this everyday?
Everything just seems to be moving so fast right now. It's like I don't even have time for anyone's drama or bull sh*t, because I have a wedding to plan! It's seeped into every minute of every day. Every thought.....it's just taken over. I love it! It's so much fun. But it had me wondering, what am I going to do when this is over? Will it be a huge let down, like Christmas afternoon? I won't be the bride anymore. There won't be anything to plan. No more dress shopping, no more shoe shopping, no more shower planning..... just back to normal. Ugh. I'm no longer the bride.... but I am a wife.... which, I guess is the whole point, but after all of this planning has taken up so much time, so many Saturdays, so many evenings, in bed.... how will I fill that time? I mean, I'm sure I'll find a zillion things to fill it, but I know I'll miss the wedding planning. I cannot believe in 66 days, I'll be a bride, and in 67 days, it'll be over. I guess it will be time to start looking at houses. :):)
It's a gorgeous day, people.... get outside!!!!
Life's short. Buy the shoes ;)
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