advice to daughters

So... I've learned a thing or two along the way about being a girl, a woman, a mom, a sister....a female....

We have soft hearts, we are naturally trusting, we are the stronger sex, even if we are the softer sex. We love with everything we have, and when we're mistreated, we come out on the other side, no worse for the wear, even stronger. No less trusting, no less loving....just smarter.

As a "seasoned pro" at womanhood, ;)  I've got advice for daughters. Not just mine.... all daughters.....

1.  Don't ever give up the girly things that you love right now. Always polish your nails. Always wear lip gloss... even on a bad day. Heck, especially on a bad day.

2. Don't ever lose sight of your goals. Don't replace you goals with someone else's.

3. Get your degree. Have a trade. Go to school.  No matter who's wife or mother you become ALWAYS have your back up plan. You never know when you may need it.

4. Always keep track of your money. Even when it becomes "our money". Learn about finances. Don't run up debt. Pay your bills. Subscribe to a money magazine (as well as Cosmo).... be a smart consumer. Live within your means.

5. Give all you have to give to your family. Every minute. Every day. But don't forget to give to yourself.  If you don't nurture yourself, you cannot nurture others.

6. Don't ever give anyone power or control over your life. You are in charge of your own life, and God is in control.

7. If it feels bad, it is bad.  Love feels good.

8. Don't become dependant on a man for survival. Don't mistake dependency for love.  (See number 7.)

9. Do not presume you can change a person. They will not change. Love them for who they are right now today, or move on.

10. If you are cheated on, end it. Immediately. No questions asked. They have shown you who they are at their core. This will not change.

11. Always be kind.

12. Love yourself...... Love yourself.... Love yourself.....


There you go.... if I could write a manual for girls, that's pretty much what I have to offer. Twelve simple rules. Follow these, and life is good... and in the words of Maya Angelou..." when someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time."


Life's short. Buy the shoes. ;)